10 Signs to Detect a Back-Stabbing Friend

Friendship: A word that evokes a lot of emotions and feelings of happiness, warmth, love, and safety. But something that evokes a greater feeling of hurt and shock is when a person betrays that friendship.  

Backstabbers are there all around, and it’s not always easy to identify such people. The most common reasons why people backstab are jealousy, greed or revenge. So if you feel someone has cause to be envious of you, be extremely cautious in your dealings with the person.

Here are 10 signs to help you when in doubt, to detect a back-stabbing friend.

1.     Backstabbers generally want something from you. So look out for signs in the person concerned whether they try to trick you into giving them something that you own or get.

2.   See how many other friends the person has. Backstabbers tend to create a reputation for themselves. If they don’t have many friends, it might be a sign that others have been hurt by the person.

3.   If your so-called friend is being too aggressive or tries too hard to convince you to do something you don’t want to, be cautious and strong in refusing him/her.

4.   If the person harshly criticizes something you do and the next minute behaves really well towards you like nothing happened, there is something fishy there.

5.    Try to notice how the person behaves with things that are precious to you. If they don’t display a similar concern towards such things, he/she might not have any real feelings for you at all.

6.   Go back and look at your first impression of the person. Did you feel any discomfort or did any kind of untoward thought cross your mind when you first met the person? First impressions are usually the right impressions.

7.    Be very cautious if the person is always flattering you and praising you to others in front of you, especially when there is not enough cause for the flattery.

8.   Backstabbers will normally have tons of gossip topics. If a friend of yours constantly keeps giving you gossip on other people, he/she is most likely doing the same thing behind your back with others.

9.   If the person keeps emphasizing on your friendship and how lucky he/she is to have you as a friend, he/she is probably hiding something or trying to make you believe that you’re best friends.

10.                      And last but not the least, always give strict attention to your instincts. If you have that feeling in your gut that something is not right about a person, listen to it.

Life's lessons are hard and it tells us that we must be aware and detect those back-stabbing friend.