10 Strategies to get your Child to Open Up to You

Why should parent-child relationship be any less difficult than any other association? Every relationship needs effort. Parents being the adults are more responsible in maintaining the link and make it better. If it is getting difficult by the day for you, don’t worry!

 Here are some suggestions which will make your child to open up with you.

1.     Using phrases of closeness: “Love you” it is a simple phrase but how often do you say this to your children. Make it your habit to tell them that everyday day no matter what their age is and the situation. The child needs to know that he/she is not being judged.

      2.   Explain your principles: Tell your children why you follow what you follow. Children are more logical than you think. If they agree then it will smooth your relationship.

      3.   The special word: Establish a code word showing your affection to your child. They would act as treats for a good job then and when not uttered, will make the child reconsider his/her wrongful action and talk to you about it

      4.   The special bed time: put your child to bed every night. Say your prayers and ask him/her about the day. These simple one on one special time is required as the child needs to know you care.

      5.    Work together: it is difficult to spend time with children owing to the work load so make the best of what time you get at home by sharing your chores with children. Make them help you at the kitchen over a friendly chat.

      6.  .Play time: You need to show them the child in you. Play games like they do, be clumsy. This will make them comfortable. They will tell you their deepest secrets!

7.    7. Eat together: Sitting together for meal helps in communication and sharing. It helps you to bond with your child and vice versa. Take your time and don’t keep the T, V. switched on. Develop a ritual!

8   8. Value their decision: Don’t neglect their decisions to be silly. Correct them by saying that they will learn with time and encourage them or else they will take decisions without your consent because you never listen!!

     9. It’s a Date!: Yes, its mandatory that as a parent you spend one on one time with your child. It may be a camping trip or just a walk to the park every Sunday. The child will look forward to the discussions. Treat them as your friends.

           10. You are my Priority: Don’t tell them, make them feel it. Don’t cancel on them due to work time and again. Attend their PTA’s or dad days at school or other extra-curricular activities. Make them feel you need them . This will encourage healthy communication.